It is almost the end of December and most of you are probably gonna make new years resolutions! I have never made a new years resolution, and I think they totally suck! How do I dare to be so harsh on people’s expectations, desires and will? Well, truth is that it is pointless to wait the whole year, just for one day. A day when you are expected to receive a burst of motivation to do something, that you are not quite sure yoy truly want, but everybody else thinks you should!
1. Resolutions are not a matter of what you wanna do but what you should be doing
Most people, claim that they will begin eating healthy, exercising more regularly, quit smoking, stop drinking and so on, when the new year comes. But do they really believe it? Most new years resolutions are a product of society’s opinion, a product of the common knowledge and understanding for “living the right way”. Stop for a second, and think about your new years resolutions. How many of them do you truly, deeply want with your heart to happen? How many of your resolutions, come from your heart and will sure be giving you motivation and strength to keep going when the going gets tough?
My observations, show me that almost all new years resolutions end up with failure. It is the same as “ I will start dieting from Monday!”…and what you have two weeks later is that you’ve wasted fourteen days, keeping up with your old bad habits!
Change is not about the right time, the right circumstances… it is more about desire, motivation, patience, perseverance!
2. You are not commited to your resolutions
Come on! Tell me the truth! Do you believe in the outcome of your resolution? How bad do you want them? Is it just a matter of trends? Everybody else is doing it, that’s why I am doing it too! Well, things don’t work out this way!
When you decide to make a change, it should refer to something important to you. Something fundamental! Something that you not only know is gonna change your life for the better, but you actually believe it will!
3. Wrong planning
Most new year’s resolutions are not realistic. They are a bold dream, a big gap between where you are now and where you want to be. That could be really discouraging! If you take it slower, one step at a time, you will see improvement, it will motivate you and keep you moving forward.
When your goals aren’t broken in attainable, smaller, realistic actions, you will never see your hard work pay off! That will most likely lead to failure! After all nobody likes busting his as off, without seeing results!
4. Everybody is doing them
Almost every single person on Earth, will make at least one resolution! When January comes, everybody will start with big enthusiasm to do wonders and change the world, but in two weeks, most people will give up on the change, and live with their old, bad habits!
As a result you will have one more reason to quit- first it is not something you truly want( if it came from deep inside, you wouldn’t have waited till the end of the year), second others quit, that is why you calm yourself down that you won’t be the only failure…after all everybody else is quitting!
In my opinion the reasons are endless! Forget about new year’s resolutions and start living today. Don’t put off your life for tomorrow or for the next week! Your life is today! Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. If you truly want something, start doing it today!