They say that time heals the pain… and more often than not, people who are in pain, claim that it doesn’t ease…
Some say that you just get used to living with it…
If you deny the fact, that time heals the pain, then you are probably refusing to keep moving forward and even if your body is in the present moment… your mind and soul are constantly living in the past…
The precipice between yesterday and today… where you lose yourself and everything that is left is the pain, which is there to remind you that once there was somebody or something…. And today the only thing that’s left of them is the absence!
Disappointments, betrayals, failures… they inflict deep wounds, which at times can hurt for a long time. But wounds heal! As long as you let them do it! Just as it is with “physical wounds”, which at first can hurt pretty bad and constantly remind of their existence- with every movement, with every tremor- but as the time goes by, if you give your best to cure it…the wound will heal. And where it once used to be, now there will be just a scar! A scar that does not hurt anymore! It is just there to remind you for the mistake you made in your past; the mistake that caused you this suffering… a scar that is a warning to stay away from repeating the past!
… it is the same with the pain of your soul! At first the acquaintance on the street, who held the door of the supermarket, so you could enter first; the person who smiled in the bus; the one who helped you put more bumpers on the bar; the person who remembered your birthday, will be a fragrance from the past… a tender fragrance, which will just “irritate” the wounds, that disappointment inflicted… but as the time goes by, when you learn to look forward; when you stop clenching in the details of today and then using them to build the illusion from yesterday… the pain will start easing…
… one day you will wake up and the tender fragrance from the past will catch up with you, but this time with a surprise you will realize that it doesn’t hurt anymore! You will look inside of yourself and there you will notice the scar, that is left in the place of the painful wound! A scar, which will remind you how you got to where you are now and what you should never do again, if you won’t to keep yourself save from another hit!
They say that life is too short, to be able to make all the possible mistakes…
…and probably your body is too fragile to undertake all the possible hits…
Everyone of us, carries his own scars- scars, which hide the mistakes from the past; scars, which remind us about the lessons we learned the hard way…
People are strange… most are always ready to share their pain, while it is still there; before they manage to heal it and learn the lesson…
And then, when the wound heals and the only thing that’s left is the scar, they rush hiding it from others. Why? Probably, because they are afraid that others will mock them, that they were so naïve to believe in lies. Probably because they are afraid, that others will mock them, that led by emotions, they forgot to be more careful. Probably because they are afraid that others will mock them, how they went to a war… without the harness… and that they allowed to be stabbed with the spearhead of insolence, indifference and coldness.
We hide the scars, so we could save our ego the shame of stripping it in front of the world and then exposing it in front of everybody… where others will get to see that for a short moment, we allowed ourselves to be weak, naïve and astray…
And life is too short to make all the possible mistakes…
That’s why I’d rather hide my wounds, while they still hurt… so I could save myself the self-pity and the fake compassion… I try to cure them alone, just like life taught me… and then when the pain eases and the only thing that’s left is the scar, I’d rather share it… without the details…just the lesson…
So I can be sure that I will help somebody else to learn the lesson of the mistake I made, without making it himself… after all life is too short to let the same spearhead, to stab many…
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