I constantly take the time to observe people. I do not gaze at them. I am not observing them with my eyes… I am observing them with my mind. As you know, I think that the world of each one of us, is a direct reflection of who we are. I am convinced that people I meet, more often than not are a projection of myself. They give me an opportunity to see myself from the side. Through them, I have the opportunity to discover my inner masks; the wekanesses which I’ve “dressed” in denial; the fears, which I covered with estrangement.
I take enough time for every person and I give everybody a significant place in my life. The more I ask myself why do I meet particular people and what is the common thing between me and them, what is their role and what are they trying to show me, the easier it is for me to discover which part of me they are reflecting. Tell you the truth, at the beginning, it was heartbreaking to acknowledge, that I possess part of the image of the person standing against me, whom in reality I don’t really enjoy.
As time went by, I understood, that there is nothing wrong with being surrounded not just by people who reflect your good side, but to meet people, who reflect your negative side.
This is the only way to get a side view of the negativity in yourself and then change it. After all it is always easier to give advices to other people, when you are just an observer, than when you are the main character. The same way, it is always easier to find “a cure” for your weaknesses, when you have a side view on them, in the image of the people who surround you.
The more I see my weaknesses in others, the more I get to work on them and respectively the more beautiful people I get to meet, because I already possess less of the negativity in myself.
But every now and then I am really perplexed. I see the person standing against me and I wonder how in the world he is part of my life. I am trying to be brutally honest with myself and acknowledge the traits in the character of the “unwanted guest” , which I myself possess… so I could have a reason to explain his presence in my life. But it never happens. That person is truly the opposite of who I am. What is he doing on my way?
At first sight he is just a burden. He is trying to discourage me, to judge me, to make me sad or to reject me. A difficult person, who is obviously trying to make my life unbearable, right?
Or, actually not. After my last meeting with such a difficult person, I realized that every one of us needs difficult people in our lives. People who will challenge us and people who will take us out of our comfort zone. Because, when we are surrounded just by people, in whose presence we feel truly accepted, we are rarely motivated enough to move forward and to grow. After all they accept us just as we are now. But still, we should aim to be better every day. Every night we should go to sleep, knowing that we made ourselves and the world a little better.
The strength in life comes, when you become ok with being out of your comfort zone. When you realize that the more you challenge yourself and the more you stay in the zone of insecurity, the foreign, the new, the unknown, the bigger will be your zone of acceptance, security and knowledge.
So, even though I do not see my own reflection in the image of the difficult people, I am not mad at them and I am not disappointed that they are on my way. I am not resisting their presence, because I know that they are my main “driving force” on the path of growth.
Difficult people are those who take me back to earth, when I start thinking I am something more and when I forget that there is a long road that I still have to travel.
Difficult people are those, who challenge me to go out of the frame of resignation, which turned into a common norm of behavior.
Difficult people are those who help me see the intense image of negativity, which they portray with their own presence, so I can build in myself the opposite positive qualities, which will help me live easier. They learn me to be tolerant, patient, strong, to have faith in myself, to never lose hope, to be brave and to live in acceptance.
Nobody taught me more than what difficult people taught me. Nobody helped me become stronger, than difficult people, who “hit” me in each of my weaknesses, so it could hurt me; so they could take my weakness in front of my eyes, to drag my attention on it… so I can turn them in strength.
So I do not resist the presence of difficult people. Every time I catch myself being disappointed by their presence, I remind myself, that probably I am the difficult person in somebody else’s life. I can think of some people, who I often make mad or sometimes I catch myself judging them.
Sometimes, everything that is left is the hope, that they are not mad at me and that they are happy that I exists…
…to challenge them and help them reveal their true self and their true strength!
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