Why Bad Things Always Happen to Me?

“Why bad things always happen to me?” How often do you ask this question?

I constantly hear people, who complain about the sorrow, that takes place in their life. People who are drowning in the “duty” of self pity, negativity and the belief that they were born without luck, cursed to suffer, unable to change the direction of their wretched fate.

Sounds unbearable just to read it, and what could I say about being the main character in a life like this!

Back in the days, when I was among those who believed that life is full of pain and suffering, I was constantly telling myself, “Ina, you never ask “why me”, when good things happen and you feel happy, that’s why now you are not gonna ask “why me”, when bad things happen and you are miserable!”. I used to PUT UP with the thought that life is like a Merry- go- round- one moment you are on top of the world, and then you are in the bottom. You should just endure being on the bottom, and soon you will be on top of the world again…

I am really happy that today I have a different point of view! Today, I don’t think that life is pain and sorrow! Today, I believe that the life of each person is dictated by his own imagination and limited beliefs.

If you are constantly repeating how miserable you are… well that is the only thing you will notice and life will constantly send you situations, which will prove and affirm you, your beliefs!

Sometimes people judge me, that I don’t understand life and that I can’t deny the bad things that take place… they say it is ridiculous!

Usually, I just don’t reply to comments like this, because I know that a person, who thinks like that, couldn’t understand what I have to tell him. But in reality, I really want to say that:

I think that life is beautiful, not because I live in an illusion or an imaginary world. Not because I’ve put my pink glasses on!

I think that life is beautiful, because no matter that a lot of pain and sorrow exists, I know how strong a person can be and how a person could turn pain, into a fuel for growth and self-realization!

I think that life is beautiful, because even if it is full of miserable people, full of hatred and detest, there are twice as many wonderful, positive people, who we could notice and turn into friends!

I think that life is beautiful, not because I live in denial and not because I am isolating myself from everything that takes place around me!

But because I chose to accept… and I will say it again- accept, not put up with the fact that there are gonna be people who will hurt me, disappoint me; situations, which will cause me pain. But, I still have the power of giving them the right to exist, and by doing so, I won’t waste efforts to fight with them. I will just react in a way that will help me take the most out of the situations!

I think that life is beautiful, not because I am being blind for the diseases and injuries, that make people suffer, but because I know that a disease is just one more opportunity to learn  what truly matters in life and how much we have!

I think that life is beautiful, not because I’ve never met obstacles in my life, but because I know that hardships gave me the most! I know that obstacles are not the end of my path, but something that will pass… something that I will look back on, with a smile and something I will be thankful for,because it showed me how capable I am and how I can achieve everything!

Let me ask you something? Isn’t the fight against what’s happening, some kind of denial? The denial to accept the fact, that things like that happen to everybody! Isn’t it a denial, that you are refusing to take the responsibility for the direction that your life took? Isn’t it a try for an escape from reality, trying to stick to your limited beliefs and the past that is gone?

Everything that you refuse to accept is a try for an escape, for denial! The more you fight a situation, the more it will be the main focus of your life and the more it will take over your life!

I REFUSE to turn sorrow in my main focus! I’d rather accept hardships, giving them the right to exist… taking the responsibility to change my life, and not rely on fate! I choose to keep moving forward and one day look back on what happened as a crumble in the past, and not an anchor that is dragging me back, keeping me in the past!

Tell me that it is lame, but I am sure that a person is responsible for everything that happens in his life! And I am not saying it because my life is full of just happy moments! No… you have no idea, how much pain is hidden behind my smile, but I know that everything that happened is my fault! Because even if we are doing it unconsciously, our actions, thoughts, beliefs, direct our life!

When you hit a car, don’t blame it on the person on the back seat, because he was distracting your attention! You are the driver and you control the situation! It is the same in life! When reality hits you, don’t ask “why you”, and take the responsibility! You are the one who gets to choose where your life is directed!

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