I don’t remember where I read it, but I read that fate helps, those who are prepared. Sounds some kind of logical, doesn’t it? Just think about it! Would you invest your time and effort to help somebody, who is obviously not willing to work as hard as he needs to, in order to lay the foundations of what, you are intending to help him build up. Well, obviously Fate has the same opinion.
I am the kind of person, who loves dreaming. Or actually, the kind of person who sets high goals. I rarely share them, because the last thing I need is somebody, who is constantly trying to convince me how the place where I’ve headed doesn’t exist or how it is reserved for somebody better than me.
I live, I work hard every day and I am walking in a direction, which I really believe is gonna take me to the place where I am headed.
I guess that it is the same with you. But every now and then, I really wish things could happen faster. I catch myself thinking that if I got them earlier, I would have a lot more opportunities and I would be able to achieve a lot better things. Then, my judgmental self, throws a fierce look on me and reminds me why I don’t always get what I think I need to have.
Some of you will say that if we do not possess something ( and I don’t mean just material things), this means in reality we don’t need it.
And that would be a great answer.
But there is one more reason. In my mind, the words “fate helps those who are prepared”, echoes again. Sometimes we want something to happen, but in reality we haven’t grown up for it to be part of our lives.
We whine that we need it and that if we can’t get it today, probably we are never gonna get it. Thus, often times we give up on our most sacred goals and ambitions, because we fool ourselves, that if we don’t have it now, we are never gonna have it.
Every time I catch myself thinking this ( or when I am about to start thinking it, because I have the habit of observing myself and my behavior and I try to get myself out, before I am stuck in a negative self-talk situation), I love imagining Fate as a caring parent, and myself as a little child.
I am sitting there, feeling sorry about myself, about the fact that something I desperately want ( for example use the stove while I am still 4 years old), and my parent worried about my health and knowing that I don’t possess the skills and knowledge needed in order to cook, is refusing to allow me.
Not because he is evil, because he wants to punish me, or take away from me, something that I deserve. But because, he sees and realizes, that it is not the time to allow me. Not yet. Because he cares too much, to let me do something, that will do more harm, than good.
Well, it is the same with life. Sometimes we want things, which we are not prepared to have… yet! This doesn’t mean that in the future we are not gonna have them. This doesn’t mean that we should give up. Just the opposite.
In such moments, I’d rather stop acting like an offended teenage girl and give up the self pity. Instead I analyze myself and my behavior. I am trying to find out an aspect, an area where I am still weak. Where I haven’t grown up enough. AN area where my skills and knowledge are not enough, where I am not well prepared. Just when I find this, I could redirect my efforts in this direction, so I can make sure to build in myself a character, that would fit the role, I wish for myself in the future.
If you catch yourself, desperately wanting something, and life is stubbornly refusing to give it to you… the reason is not in the fact that the world is evil and unfair place, and you are a victim in it. The reason is in yourself. In your refusal to take a more realistic look on yourself and what you are. The refusal to take a better look on your advantages and disadvantages. The reason is in your refusal to prepare, for what you wish you had!
Life always gives us an opportunity to have, what we aim for… just when we are grown up enough for it to be a part of our lives!
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