Lately some of my American friends are writing about the “Strong is the new skinny” movement. You can read Eileen’s post here and Liz’s post from Cave Girl Eats here. I love what Marsha and Adam the founders of “Strong is the new skinny” have done for women all around the world, but I still want to share my opinion about the way I see, feel and understand that.
Skinny is something I never wanna be, feel, associate with and aim for! Strong is my lifetime goal! I understand that in “Strong is the new skinny”, strong is meant to become our ideal, and skinny to be left in our past, but I do not want strong to become the new skinny.
Skinny is the ultimate goal of a lot of young girls and elder women. Most of them go through hell and back, trying to achieve that robbed of life look! All the mental issues, the eating disorders, self hate and body image issues, that have to do with being skinny are destructive!
A person that hasn’t been a part of the journey of being in the prison of your own thoughts and self hate, could never understand how skinny feels like! Seeing somebody waste the beautiful person she is, in the mere goal of perfection is heartbreaking! The days, spend hardly existing, struggling to breath, move and eat… the pain of being around of people, but feeling lonely… The pain of being beautiful but seeing yourself as fat, disgusting and unattractive!
Why would you want strong to be the new skinny? The new ideal that gripes women… The new ideal that leaves tons of expectations and the all or nothing attitude.
Is that the reason we are trying so hard to convince women that skinny is not the way to live? Just to give them another ideal, that will torture their minds and bodies?
I don’t think so! I think that the main reason we are trying to convince woman to lift weights and eat clean, is to help them accept themselves, love themselves and be themselves! The main point is health! Be healthy and don’t waste who you are, trying to be who others think you should be!
Strong is a relative concept! For a child, his parents could be seen as strong. For the ordinary person, an athlete might be seen as strong… strong depends on who you are looking to and who you are comparing with.
I don’t want to spread the word for another ideal, that will turn in the next century’s mental disease! Strong is strong!
And what I truly believe is that Health is Beautiful and that is all that matters. And health is hidden in balance! Don’t forget why we are trying so hard to convince women that skinny ain’t the way to do it- HEALTH! Not appearance!