When you decide to leave,
Don’t look me in the yes!
Leave without daring to turn around!
Take a walk on the dusty road,
Among the stones, the ravage and the tears…
Leave without daring to turn around
And I will watch you leaving
My eyes will follow every step of yours
My lips will softly utter
The sound of your name…
But leave! Don’t you dare turn around!
The sunset, which lost its beauty…
The bird, that forgot its song,
The flower that didn’t taste the ground
Will show me that you’ve left…
Beautiful, right? Probably you wonder what in the world do those lyrics have to do with today’s post… what is the matter of this human drama…
What do you notice in the lyrics above? Pain, sadness, lost dreams, pity, anxiety, fear, disappointment, and maybe hope… different emotions, that are tearing the human soul… and all of them can be summed up in one- CHANGE!
Every situation in our life, leads to some kind of change. Sometimes changes are small and we don’t notice them…and sometimes they shake up our world and turn our lives around. For most of us change has an expensive cost- a lot of tears, sleepless nights, questions without answers, choking pain, memories, that seem to dig the wounds of our hearts.
Last week I read a book, where the author says that “nothing has its own meaning, besides the meaning we give it.” Just one sentence, which has the power to change your life and the way you overcome the turns of life.
Change literally means something new, something different. And that is exactly what makes it look so scary. We are used to living monotonously. Every day to resemble the one before it. Everything to be secure, so we won’t need to adapt to different people and situations. And every time, when something happens, something that threatens the monotony we get scared and we clench to yesterday! We clench in what has been giving us security, what didn’t challenge us to fight, to prove ourselves and anticipate what’s coming next…
Because everything used to guarantee us security… the security that tomorrow is gonna be just like today and we won’t need to make an effort to do, to get or to achieve something more!
And change isn’t scary. Look back on the past and remind yourself of how many times things took a turn. You felt lonely, abandoned, defenceless, weak and incapable of dealing with what has happened. It seemed like everything lost its meaning and dark clouds were hanging over your life… and what happened later on? All the great things happened… those that you are enjoying right now! Life gave you better things than you’ve ever expected and dreamed to have!
… because change, no matter how much pain it brings is not the end of the world! Change is something new. Change means that in the future you are gonna be doing something different. It means that you have to forget about “the old normal” and adapt to your “new normal”.
When something that you never expected to happen, takes place in your life… something that shakes your whole world and tries to shake your confidence and your peace, stop for a second. Don’t give in to the emotions from your past and the expectations of your future, that make you feel dead-locked, full of fear and weakness! Take a look on things through the view of today!
What happened? Somebody left your life, you got fired, somebody stole your car… And what? What scares you? You are not scared of your present, you are not scared of what has happened! You are scared that things will go in a different direction and not the way you’ve planned it. You are scared of the thought, that you will have to face the future with somebody else beside you, that you will have to face the future with a new job and etc.
But is it really that scary? No! As long as you look it through the eyes of today! It is said that there are three truths in life- the mighty, the visible and the imaginable. The mighty truth is why things happen. The visible truth is what is actually happening today and the imaginable truth is what we think is happening today. Unfortunately, almost every one of us chooses to trust the imaginable truth! We choose to trust what we think is happening!
The imaginable truth brings a lot of pain and sorrow, because it gives birth to illusion… the illusion that everything from the past was perfect and that things will never be so wonderful again. The imaginable truth is exactly that- a fruit of our imagination. It is far from what is actually happening in reality and far from what is gonna happen in the future! The imaginable truth is equal to an illusion.. a deception of the senses and a crooked perception of reality!
DO you really want to live your life in an illusion? In sadness and pain, born of the imaginary perfect meaning, that you are giving to your past and everything that was part of it? Nothing has its own meaning, besides the meaning you are giving it! If you decide that what is happening in your life today is robbing you, taking happiness away from you, robbing the beautiful moments and exciting feelings… then that is really what is happening!
But if you decide that what happens today is giving you a lesson, that will serve you as a good and caring friend in the future; that it will open new doors to a more beautiful world and that it will give you the chance to be the person you’ve always dreamed to become… then probably that is exactly what is gonna happen!
What do you choose for your life? To live in an illusion, sad and miserable, or to see through reality and live in happiness?
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