A couple weeks ago I wrote the article “You are more than a number”, when a reader wrote me, accusing me that I am encouraging women to stay obese. Tell you the truth I am far from the idea of convincing somebody to be fat or obese. Actually I am more about balance and being fit and functional. The reason I often write about body image issues, is that I have a personal story with a family member that suffered an eating disorder and the story led to death, and another one that luckily had a happy ending! Besides that I notice that body image issues are getting more publicity due to the rising frequency of girls suffering from them!
Probably 9 out of 10 girls, are concerned about the way they look. How often do you hear the statement “ I feel fat”? I hear it on a daily basis! What bothers me is that fat can’t be a feeling! Fat is an adjective! It can’t describe your inner-self and how much you are worth!
What I’d like to point out is that I encourage even women that are obese, to first start loving themselves and then deal with the weight issues. Because more often than not you have to lose your problems to lose your weight not vice versa! Most women that are currently obese have something in their past that makes them feel miserable, that makes them feel bad about themselves, makes them feel insecure. Due to the incapacity of dealing with that problem, they drown their negative emotions in food feasts, thinking that food will make them happier!
Sometimes people get lost in their desire to look good, and can’t separate their true feelings from their body image! That right there is the moment when they transform their negative feelings into negative attitudes about their body. The bad body image days are indicators that you are feeling lonely, stressed, anxious and etc. When the thought about your bad look starts creeping in your mind, that is a sign that you have a problem hidden on the inside! There is something that is torturing you, something that makes you feel unworthy! It turns into a vicious cycle, where these emotions, plant the seed of self-hatred, you feel weak and can’t deal with them, then it is easier to turn to food as your savior. Thus you either stuff yourself or starve yourself to death! Either way, you are just destroying yourself!
Instead of keeping your body in the prison of your negative thoughts, it would be much easier to deal with the problems instead of avoiding them! Learn to respect your strength and don’t give in to your weakness! No matter how useless you think you are, you are probably wrong! There is always something you could do, somebody you could help! Don’t rob other people’s lives from your presence! Start believing in yourself beyond your size, beyond your weight, beyond the calories you eat!
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